This is an expanded read inspired by this IG post.
Have you ever found yourself scrolling through social media, only to realize that while you’re digitally connected, the epidemic of loneliness is still lurking in the shadows of your life?
While New Smyrna Beach boasts undeniable community spirit, the truth is, loneliness doesn’t discriminate by age or zip code.
“BIG NUMBER
California County Says Loneliness Is Official Health Emergency—Here’s Why
24%. That’s the percentage of people aged 15 or older who reported feeling very or fairly lonely in a Meta-Gallup survey of people in more than 140 countries.”
It can lurk in the silence of a solo coffee break, the echo of an empty nest, or the feeling of being the “new kid” at a local event, even amidst a sea of friendly faces.
That moment at the 2023 Images Festival of the Arts, a simple invitation – “Come sit with us!” – transformed our experience. We were not lonely, but imagine if it were someone who decided to support the work the Atlantic Center for the Arts does, but attended alone — new to town…
Seemingly insignificant gestures highlight a crucial point: loneliness thrives in silence, but it withers in the face of connection. So, how do we prevent or combat this “epidemic” in New Smyrna Beach?
For those yearning to truly connect:
- Embrace the local heartbeat! Dive into the vibrant tapestry of our community. Of course there are Facebook groups but also check out “Meetup New Smyrna Beach” or surrounding areas. Take it one step further: join a group that is different from something you’ve ever done — get creative and scroll and promise to try whatever the 3rd or 5th event is on the page.
- Don’t underestimate the power of a “hello!” Strike up a conversation at the coffee shop, offer a friendly wave on the beach. But don’t stop there! Find common ground. Comment on the beautiful day, the delicious coffee, or the adorable dog someone’s walking. Share a personal anecdote related to the topic. Active listening is key: pay attention to their response, ask follow-up questions, and truly engage.
- Turn conversations into connections. After a pleasant exchange, don’t let the moment fade. Express your genuine interest in continuing the conversation. “I would love to hear more about your love for photography!” or “I’m also interested in hiking, would you be up for exploring that new trail together sometime?”
- Exchange numbers or social media handles. This makes future contact easier and shows your commitment to fostering a connection beyond chance encounters. Remember, intentionality is key!
For those already feeling connected:
- Be the “come sit with us!” person. Notice someone dining alone? Invite them to your table. A seemingly simple gesture can hold immense power.
- Spread the “connection bug!” Encourage your friends, family, and local businesses to embrace inclusivity. Organize community potlucks, host game nights, or simply remind everyone to look out for those who might be feeling alone.
“…she always felt welcome at social gatherings regardless of who else was attending: “I could ask someone to hang out, and they’d be like, oh, I have my friend’s friend’s tutor’s second cousin’s wedding, but you can come if you want.””
“As the US faces a loneliness epidemic, people who experienced social life abroad say they can see why”
Studies paint a stark picture: loneliness has dire health consequences, impacting everything from mental well-being to physical health. But here’s the good news: we are not powerless. By fostering a culture of connection, where “come sit with us!” becomes our collective mantra, we can turn the tide.
Imagine our beach town not just as a sun-drenched paradise, but as a beacon of warmth and belonging, where every resident, young or old, feels the embrace of community.
Let’s make that a reality, one smile, one shared table, one intentional act of connection at a time.
The ocean may roar, but our collective kindness can be even louder. So, let’s raise our voices, our smiles, and our open hearts, together.